For this week’s Sunday Brunch question, Bonnie asked:
Other than spanking implements, are there any toys you employ during a spanking session? If so, please describe your favorites and how they enhance your experience. If not, are there any such toys that you would like to own?
I wrote an answer in the comments section of her blog but I had to kind of rush it because a vanilla friend was headed over to take me to see The Devil Wears Prada (we ended up chatting for so long that we missed the film so went make-up shopping instead).
Anyway, this is an expanded version of my answers there. 🙂
My first thought was… nothing, we just do spanking stuff. I guess that just goes to show how much these things have become just part of wiiwd.
Things we use (at least sometimes)
- Lots of dressing up stuff, especially school uniforms, stiff collared shirts and school knickers.
- a corner of the room (assuming a corner can count as a thing)
- a high stool or a regular chair (for bending or being tied over.
- rectal thermometer (o-the-shame)
- plug (o the shame)
- enema stuff (O THE SHAME)
- wrist cuffs
- vibrating egg
- school book / notebooks and the like
Things we don’t have but I’d like us to get:
- spreader bar
- an adult sized school desk
- school room / "play’ room (in my wildest dreams)
Most of the stuff, as you can probably guess, is used when we’re doing scenes with a school feel. Others are for the very embarrassing anal play feeling.
Lots of people assume, because of the school uniforms plus the stories Paul and I have written that we do a lot of role play. This isn’t the case. Although I’ve been doing scenes as a adult for almost 9 years, I can count the number of real role play scenes I’ve done on my fingers and toes. And the ones I’ve done with Paul on just my fingers.
Role play is something I’d like to do more of, but it comes a lot easier for me than it does for him and it takes a lot of his energy. While I enjoy being someone else (or rather, me as another self), Paul enjoys scenes most that are close to who he really is. And he’s not my teacher, headmaster or daddy.
Plus, one of the first (and only) times we tried a guardian / child scene, we were both very new to this. My resistance got out of control and became very unpleasant for both of us, yet I didn’t feel able to just step out of the scene. I guess part of me was too afraid of it failing and us never doing anything like it again. We hadn’t even considered that he, as the top, might need a safeword and so he felt trapped in a scene that had spiraled away from both of us. It was just bad and unhappy all the way around… a terrible experience. The result? We never have played that dynamic again. And when we do play, I’m very self-conscious for fear of it not being good for him. I’m not sure we’ll ever do it enough for this to really go away either.
Instead, the roleplays that I need seem to happen in my head outside of our actual scenes with the dynamic and scenes with Paul providing both fodder and release. Maybe it’s not ideal. But it’s pretty close. And very good in its own right.